I told her the facts as best as I could including words like penis, vagina, sperm, egg, and sex. She took it all in without a single giggle. Rob, who talks about sex more than anyone I've ever met, was completely uncomfortable and squeamish with my candidness.
I could tell it was the first time she ever heard the word "sex". After I said it, she said, "Oh! I've heard the word sexy. Sex hmm. It's like the word six." "Yes," I said, "But it's spelled S-E-X. " She kept asking me questions throughout the day. I'm so glad we were having these conversations. Only thing I forgot to do was tell her that it's a very grown-up topic, and to wait to talk to her friends at school about it. I assumed she knew? Oh great. I hope she didn't make a fool out herself.
She must have told her brothers everything she found out because the next morning Oscar woke me up with this question: "Mom, how does a worm get to the egg?" I decided I needed some more backup so we all took a trip to Bank Street Bookstore (the best children's bookstore ever!). After skimming over their selection of sex education books, I decided on two: It's Not the Stork! and A Child Is Born. Completely different books with a ton of interesting information.
It's Not the Stork! is luckily age appropriate for all my kids. The cartoon diagrams of boys and girls bodies are simple and easy to understand. The author, Robie H. Harris, does a really good job describing sex on page 28. And I adore the chapter entitled, "Okay Touches, Not Okay Touches." There are three books in the series for different age groups. It's Not the Stork! is for ages 4 and up. It's So Amazing! is for ages 7 and up. And finally It's Perfectly Normal is for ages 10 and up. I'm looking forward to working our way through the series. Ella's already said she wants It's So Amazing! for her 7th Birthday. ha.
I like A Child Is Born because of its scientific approach. All the pictures are large, stunning, colorful, and REAL. I think it's important to show my kids what an actual sperm looks like vs. the cartoon sperms in It's Not the Stork! The only drawings I found in A Child Is Born are of a vagina and a penis. But, again, they are realistic scientific drawings vs. cartoon drawings. The reading material is advanced (I was learning a thing or two!), so I suspect my kids will skim over the book and be fascinated by the pictures.
Very happy with my purchases. Owen fell asleep while I read through the books with Oscar and Ella for bed tonight. He's going to get an earful in the morning from the two of them!
How did you find out about sex? Have you tackled the sex talk with your kids? Do you have any good resources I could use? Please share!
Photo Credits in order:
1. Angel Dear (my boys modeled for them years ago! It was their last and only modeling gig. ha)
2. Aubrey Trinnaman
3. Sperm Photo credit
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