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How Many People Can Live in A 2 Bedroom Apartment in NYC? 3? 5? 10?


Check out how I found my kids sleeping a few nights ago. They pulled out a mattress and stuck it into our tiny hallway. Cozy? They seem to think so. I had to take a  picture.

We live in a tiny two-bedroom apartment in Manhattan. All three of my kids share a bedroom (unless they decide to sleep in a hallway haha). My daughter is 6 and my twin boys are 4 years old. It’s clearly not the perfect living situation, but we’re happy. Every night feels like a slumber party!

I’ve been wondering lately: Is there an age when siblings should stop sharing a room? What’s the deal with siblings of the opposite sex sharing a bedroom? What was your experience with sharing a room growing up?

UPDATE!  Thank you for all your help! Here's some of my favorite responses.  Who do you identify with the most? I’ll start with my favorite comment. Have you ever thought of this?

Lia from Sip Mom writes: I think that there are alternatives for families living in NYC, where the extra bedroom can cost you one thousand dollars more in rent, like loft settings or dividers (apt therapy has lots of ideas). I am sure that if you place the extra one thousand you would spend on a three bedroom, on a savings account towards college for the next 15 years, then you would have 180,000 dollars plus interest to share among your kids. More than 60,000 to each kid. There would be no further complains about sharing a bedroom! 

Lia’s totally right. An extra bedroom would cost us at least an extra $1,000. It’s mind boggling how much we would save. I need to keep this in mind.

I also love Lilac Barries honest response: It’s not like we’re living in tenement houses of a 100 years ago and you have multiple families sharing a single tiny apartment. I think like anything with parenting it’s about making sure your children are happy and healthy and how that looks is different for every family. 

So true! I think once my kids start complaining about space, we’ll pay a visit to the Tenement Museum in the Lower East Side. That’ll show ‘em!

Along the same lines, Noelle from These Mountains Are Mine writes: I know there are issues with gender sharing and number of kids in a room in our culture, but does it really matter? There are families all over the world that share a one room house … not bedroom … house with multiple kids and parents all sleeping in the same room. Aren’t bedrooms/space kind of just a luxury? Granted, I want to keep the genders separate in our household, at least once our kids are past the toddler age…but I wonder if we make it more of an issue than it should be. 

I wonder the same thing! Thanks Noelle for bringing up a good point.

Gaby from The Vault Files writes her experience with sharing a room. Lucky her! She writes: I’m the only girl of 4 siblings and my 3 brothers shared a room until the oldest one was 17! I had my own room from the very beginning! I always thought that rooms should be only shared among kids of the same gender but I guess sometimes there is no choice and you have to put them together. 

Like Gaby, reader LibbyK had a similar experience with one person always getting a single room. Her response cracked me up: I come from a biiiig family. At one time we lived in a tiny house and the room situation went like this-Mom/Dad/infant sister in one room. Me/my older sister in one tiny room. Two brothers in a bunk bed in the basement family room(!). My older brother had his own room. And it was the biggest room. Somehow he’s always finagled the best rooming situation in the family whilst the rest of us are stacked/crammed/smooshed into tinsy rooms.

I wonder what LibbyK’s older brother grew up to be? His negotiation skills must be top notch!

Leave it Becky from Baby Making to talk about the elephant in the room: PUBERTY. I love her blog — I can always count on her to write funny and honest posts. Her comment is in true Becky style: I think that boys and girls should split up around the same time that they start talking about boy/girl differences in school – around when puberty starts to hit. Before then, it’s not really inappropriate for boys and girls to change in front of each other, but if boys start getting morning wood or having wet dreams at night, and girls have their periods or blossoming breasts - it can make things uncomfortable! Haha. Oh, the joys of puberty!

Thanks Becky for reminding me of that terrible awkward time. I hope my daughter gets her own room before then!

I was glad to see Hailey’s comment because she has four kids in one room! I’ve actually been to her apartment, and it really does somehow work. Way to go Hailey! She writes: I love that my four kids are sharing a room here in NY. They have to learn to get along, and they can’t go and isolate themselves from the rest of the family. I hear them talking and giggling after lights out at night, and I like to think it’s bringing them closer. Plus, they are getting creative at finding ways to make their own privacy (dressing in closets, etc.) I think if and when we move back to the suburbs, I will still have them share as much as possible.

Who has Hailey beat?! Can I get a reader with 5 kids in a bedroom? Can I get 6? Anyone?

I’ll end with Jaclyn’s comment. She nail it. She wrote: I shared a room with my little brother and sister until we moved when i was 14. i never really minded it. there were moments where i wished i had my own room and there were times when we taped up sections of the bedroom as only mine or only my siblings, but all in all we survived. i was able to cope better at sleepovers and summer camp. i survived. 

I love that. We survived. I survived. I guess it’s really that simple. Thanks to all my readers for practically writing this article for me! I included three more of my favorite comments below. Now it’s your turn: What’s been your experience with siblings sharing a room? Love it or hate it?

1. Sarah from Just Sarah writes: I’ve grown up most of my life in NYC. My older brother and younger sister and I all shared a room until I was 14 and they were 15 and 12 respectively. It was kind of nice, and we were always really close. My brother had a curtain for privacy and we all had loft beds which was great. Finally we just outgrew the space (literally- I would stub my toe almost every time I walked to the back of the room) and had to move to a bigger apartment. I still share a room with my little sister, and sometimes I feel really cramped up, but over all I don’t mind it terribly. 

2. Libbey Blaine writes: My two older brothers are 7 and 8 years older than I and we shared a bedroom until I was in the 3rd grade. I’m sure they would tell you that it was more than annoying to share a room with their pesky little sister for that long, but I loved it. I had my own story tellers and monster fighters. I think sharing a room with them actually helped foster my independence, because I was able to rely less and less on my parents to comfort my fears.When we moved to a large house we each had our own bedrooms but sometimes we would have “camp outs” in each others rooms, and very often we would do this in the living room. 

3. Lando writes: We have twin 6-year old girls that have shared a bedroom since the first day they came home from the hospital together. Right now they are in a bunk-bed in a rather small bedroom, and it works – for now. I worry that somewhere around age 8 or 9 they will outgrow the limited space in their bedroom and start crashing into each other physically, mentally and emotionally….needing their own personal space. For now though, they have never known anything different so it works fine. My eldest daughter, who is 10, has said more than once “why does everyone else in this family have a roommate but me? it’s not fair…..” which just goes to show you that it’s all about perspective!


56 comments:

  1. I have a 2 year old little girl and am due with a baby boy any day now. They will share a room! We have a 3rd bedroom but it's downstairs and I want us on the same floor. My neighbor's pediatrician says all siblings should share a room at some point- it encourages bonding and sharing, as well as allows for unsupervised by parent interaction. I figure by the time puberty hits we will think of other options- but it's not a concern in the near future. Me and my husband share a room, the dogs share the living room- why should the kids have to/get to have their own?

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  2. That is absolutely precious! I love sibling love! I am the second of three girls. I have shared a room with both of my sisters at some point. My older sister and I shared a bed for a while, too. I remember being SO excited when I finally got my own room! Then...we moved, and I had to share again. I never minded, until I was a teenager. I think, at that point, it's really crucial that everyone feel they have their "own" space, whether that be a bedroom or nook, I guess that depends on the living situation. I am 22, my older sister 24, and my younger sister is 17. We all currently live together, and we are always in each others rooms together; we just love hanging out. But we all have our own space to return to when we need it.

    As for the gender thing, I have friends who have 4 kids-three girls and one boy. They ALL share a room. The boy is inthe first grade, and has one older sister. I think that's crossing the line a bit. He needs his own space, and to be able to have a boy room, and not be drowned out by all things girly. So probably 6 or so would be an ideal separation age. But then again, different things work for different people!

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  3. I shared a room with my brother when we were kids but most of the time, he and I ended up sleeping in my mom's bed with her. We lived in a 2 bedroom apartment. When I was in grade 4 and he was in kindergarten, we moved to a 3 bedroom house and we had our own rooms. I was really excited to have my own room because it was mine, but I don't remember ever having a problem with sharing a room. My brother and I played together all the time and got along well.

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  4. Jessica R GarrettMarch 30, 2012 at 6:27 PM

    My first comment on your blog!! I am a fan of siblings sharing a room. I shared a room with my sister until I was in 4th grade and, looking back, it may have been a blessing to my future college roomies for me to share with her longer. When my aunt built their dream home, they had four bedrooms downstairs. I thought, "Perfect! Four kids - bedrooms." Not the case, she had her girls share one room and her boys share another while the other two "bedrooms" were turned into a play room and guest room. Now that her kids are older, she can spread them out more but, at the time, I think it was a great idea. Her kids are close and I attribute that in part to the fact that they had to learn to share a space. In NY, there aren't many options. However, I feel that it's a great opportunity for kids to not only share a space but share experiences through late night conversations, playing make believe, fighting - you name it.

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  5. I just read an article that it's against kids' instincts to sleep alone, because in hunter/gatherer days, that would just about be suicide. I thought that was pretty interesting. My sister and I definitely had our share of strife sharing a room growing up, but in hindsight, it was always easier to sleep when she was there...and we also had our share of giggles!

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  6. I shared my room with either one of my sisters until I was 9, then we moved and we each got a room. We had lots of fights (line down the middle) but I'm sure it helped us share.
    I think it depends on personalities, you'll have adults that can't share a room and I believe some kids just can't. We have our kids in separate rooms because we have the space and otherwise they just don't sleep!
    I thought I read somewhere that between ages 6-8 girls might want to be separated from their boy sibling, but I can't remember if that was with younger boy siblings or older boy siblings, but I'm sure whatever works for you guys.

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  7. I never shared a room....but my sisters did (lol):) I liked having my own space and alone time. I think the twin boys should share a room until they leave the nest but E will probably get to a point where she might want her own space/privacy.....especially being a girl. Maybe she could sleep in the closet or you could install a curtain or divider in the bedroom to give her some privacy. Have you asked her what she thinks? Maybe you should survey a group of kids and ask them what they think:) My guess is that they probably don't mind sharing a room up until a certain age:) Maybe E likes being in the same room with her buddies:) Good luck!:)
    ~Christine

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  8. My 3yr old twins girls share a bedroom and I can't imagine them not. Growing up, my older sister and I didn't share a bedroom and I can't imagine having to - nightmare!!! Ha! But actually, I think it's a good thing and likely would have made my sister and I closer even though we would have hated it and constantly been at war!

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  9. I don't have any kids, so no first hand experience on this. I never had to share a room with my brother and I've always thought that I would never make my kids share. Now that I live in San Francisco however where housing is exorbitant and I've seen how families with small spaces have made it work for their kids I think it would be fine. It's not like we're living in tenement houses of a 100 years ago and you have multiple families sharing a single tiny apartment. I think like anything with parenting it's about making sure your children are happy and healthy and how that looks is different for every family.

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  10. We have twin 6-year old girls that have shared a bedroom since the first day they came home from the hospital together. Right now they are in a bunk-bed in a rather small bedroom, and it works - for now. I worry that somewhere around age 8 or 9 they will outgrow the limited space in their bedroom and start crashing into each other physically, mentally and emotionally....needing their own personal space. For now though, they have never known anything different so it works fine. My eldest daughter, who is 10, has said more than once "why does everyone else in this family have a roommate but me? it's not fair....." which just goes to show you that it's all about perspective!

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  11. Growing up as a middle child in a family of 5, I always had to share a room. We had 3 rooms for 5 people and we made it work. My grandmother would come over and say we were just "living on top of each other!". We didn't mind and we made it work. I attribute how close I am to my siblings now (I'm 25) with how we were forced (encouraged?) to do life together from the get-go.

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  12. How adorable! This post makes me want to have another baby just so my daughter can have a cuddle partner that's (relatively) her size. :)

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  13. I love that my four kids are sharing a room here in NY. They have to learn to get along, and they can't go and isolate themselves from the rest of the family. I hear them talking and giggling after lights out at night, and I like to think it's bringing them closer. Plus, they are getting creative at finding ways to make their own privacy (dressing in closets, etc.) I think if and when we move back to the suburbs, I will still have them share as much as possible.

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  14. I come from a biiiig family. At one time we lived in a tiny house and the room situation went like this-Mom/Dad/infant sister in one room. Me/my older sister in one tiny room. Two brothers in a bunk bed in the basement family room(!). My older brother had his own room. And it was the biggest room. Somehow he's always finagled the best rooming situation in the family whilst the rest of us are stacked/crammed/smooshed into tinsy rooms.

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  15. Gyða GunnarsdóttirMarch 30, 2012 at 6:27 PM

    I shared a room with my brother as growing up and he is a 4 years younger, I got my own bedroom when I was 11yrs old. It worked out somehow.
    My two older kids share a bedroom, she is 9 and he is 7. Its been working out well but i would say, when my daugther will turn 10 yr old she will get her own bedroom (we r moving then). They fight alot somedays and then they have days they get along. They are really close and sometimes I hear them talking when the lights go off but we have also nights when my son is complaining that his big sister has to much noise, and sometimes she plays a ghost and he runs out screaming for MOM. It was better when they were younger, when they get older i think its nice to have your own space to escape. ;)

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  16. I shared a room with my sister (4 years my junior) growing up until I was 11. We had a small bedroom and so my mum made her some curtains for her bottom bunk so it gave us a little more privacy and also gave her (and me too) a really fun space to play in too. I know we fought but strangely enough I only remember the good times we had. I now have a nearly 3 year old boy and we are planning on having 2 or 3 children in total. I had planned on buying a big enough house so they could all have their own room but reading this makes me wonder if sharing a room would be a whole heap more fun. One thing I do intend to have in our future house is a nice living room for grown ups but a family room (I'm going to call it the snug) where our children can play and have their friends over without getting under my feet. I think as long as siblings are able to get their own space and time on their own when they need it then sharing a room is great.

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  17. I've grown up most of my life in NYC. My older brother and younger sister and I all shared a room until I was 14 and they were 15 and 12 respectively. It was kind of nice, and we were always really close. My brother had a curtain for privacy and we all had loft beds which was great. Finally we just outgrew the space (literally- I would stub my toe almost every time I walked to the back of the room) and had to move to a bigger apartment. I still share a room with my little sister, and sometimes I feel really cramped up, but over all I don't mind it terribly.

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  18. I shared a room with my 2 brothers until I was in second grade. Then we moved to a bigger place and I had my own room. I enjoyed having my own room when I was a teenager but I think that there are alternatives for families living in NYC, where the extra bedroom can cost you one thousand dollars more in rent, like loft settings or dividers (apt therapy website has lots of ideas). I am sure that if you place the extra one thousand you would spend on a three bedroom, on a savings account towards college for the next 15 years, then you would have 180000 dollars plus interest to share among your kids. More than 60000 to each kid. There would be no further complains about sharing a bedroom!

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  19. love your posts! i shared a room with my little brother and sister until we moved when i was 14. i never really minded it. there were moments where i wished i had my own room and there were times when we taped up sections of the bedroom as only mine or only my siblings, but all in all we survived. i was able to cope better at sleepovers and summer camp. i survived.

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  20. Gaby [The Vault Files]March 30, 2012 at 6:28 PM

    Wow, if my oldest brother ever comes across your blog and read this my mom is going to be in big problem! I'm the only girl of 4 siblings and my 3 brothers shared a room until the oldest one was 17! I had my own room from the very beginning! I always thought that rooms should be only shared among kids of the same gender but I guess sometimes there is no choice and you have to put them together. My mom comes from a family of 8 siblings and they always shared rooms, but I think they were never mixed up, I think my grandmother always kept the boys in the same room. At first I didn't recognize your kids! They look so cute ;)

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  21. My two older brothers are 7 and 8 years older than I and we shared a bedroom until I was in the 3rd grade. I'm sure they would tell you that it was more than annoying to share a room with their pesky little sister for that long, but I loved it. I had my own story tellers and monster fighters. I think sharing a room with them actually helped foster my independence, because I was able to rely less and less on my parents to comfort my fears. When we moved to a large house we each had our own bedrooms but sometimes we would have "camp outs" in each others rooms, and very often we would do this in the living room.

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  22. When my little brother was born (I was 18 months and my older brother was 3), my older brother and I moved in together. I don't remember much about sharing a room with him. I do remember being jealous that he got to sleep on the top bunk UGH! We moved to a much larger house when I was 4 where I got my own room and a bathroom (no girl should have to share a bathroom with two gross boys!) When my younger brother left for college and older brother moved home from college, my parents downsized back into a tiny 3 bedroom farmhouse. This is where shit gets crazy! Currently my older brother has a bedroom that he shares with his "business partner"/girlfriend. They are living with my parents to save money as they try to expand their small business. So my parents have a bedroom, my brother and his girlfriend have a bedroom, and that leaves only one bedroom left for my younger brother and me to share. My mom was originally upset that she couldn't provide enough rooms for all her babies, but it's not really a big deal sharing a room with him. We have two full size beds, so there is no bro/sis snuggling. Granted there is no room for hardly anything else in the room, but it's just where we sleep. My brother and I live together at school and are incredibly close. Plus, we aren't both home at my parents very often. Just a few months here and there for summer vacation or holidays. It's actually pretty fun sharing a room with him though. This summer we would wake up and tell each other stories about what the other was saying while sleep talking. Some nights we would call our mom to come tuck us in as she was headed to bed (actually that was mostly me, but it was still fun to act like a little kid even though we are both in our 20s.) Of course, I also had to deal with the normal gross boy habits like farting, but with two brothers I'm pretty much unfazed by that sort of thing! My parents are currently remodeling the house so that one day everyone will have his or her own bedroom when we are home. As for now, I don't really mind sharing. I actually think it's kinda fun!

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  23. hi~ just starting to write my article and would love to use some of your comments. is there a blog I can give you credit? it's totally cool if you don't have one, but I just want to make sure!

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  24. my two kids share a room. we put them in the same room from pretty early on even though there are two spare rooms in our house. i read a while ago that growing up sharing a room helps you learn to solve conflicts early on. because they share a room they can't have a fight, slam their doors and ignore each other. they have to work it out. it makes sense, because really, when do you ever live alone? you go from living with your parents to going to university and having a roommate then a boy/girlfriend or a husband /wife... so, for the most part you have to have a roommate your entire life. better to learn early how to work out problems with the people you share a space with. x

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  25. so true!! i might use some of your thoughts for my article. is there a blog you want me to link back to when I mention you name? just checking :)

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  26. wow! i never thought of this!
    I just checked out your blog--i love the layout! isn't Designer Blogs the best? love their clean designs! and affordable!!

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  27. Totally. I wonder the same thing too!! :)

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  28. Totally good point about that believing that some kids just can't. I never thought of it like that.

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  29. I shared a room with my sister from 6th to 8th grade, while our house was being rebuilt, and did not mind. It was a TINY room and we put clothing racks in the middle to separate us (and house our expansive wardrobes). There was about 4 square feet of walking space. It was fun, and there was always stuff everywhere, but we get along really well and it only brought us closer (literally). It was like a slumber party every night. However, an eighth grade and sixth grade girl sharing a room led to many fights over what belongs to whom!

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  30. thanks, I learned about Designer Blogs from your blog. I had been wanting to blog forever but I would spend endless hours trying to design a blog to save money and never got anything nice done. Wish I had known about them a long time ago. I learned about your blog on A Cup of Jo, keep writing, love to read your posts!

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  31. Love it! I am a mother of 4 and we live in a tiny 1200 square foot house...3 bedrooms. Which means the 3 boys share a room. I think it is great for them for so many reasons! They of course have their moments, but I think at the end of the day they are the best of friends, especially the two oldest who are 18 months a part. I am sure if my 3 year older daughter would love to be in there if we let her, her brothers are her heros and she adores them. I think with all the self entitlement and instant gratification going on in our society that putting our kids in situations where it isn't all about them, and they have to think of others, is only to their benefit. What better way to prepare our kids then starting them out with having to share a room. Good luck! Love the blog! As I am sure you are figuring out living in small spaces is all about managing your space well, but even in small places and spaces life is good and all can be happy!

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  32. My husband and I come from big families who always shared bedrooms. At any given time there could be 3-4 in one bedroom (always of the same gender). I know there are issues with gender sharing and number of kids in a room in our culture, but does it really matter? There are families all over the world that share a one room house...not bedroom...house with multiple kids and parents all sleeping in the same room. Aren't bedrooms/space kind of just a luxury? Granted, I want to keep the genders separate in our household, at least once our kids are past the toddler age...but I wonder if we make it more of an issue than it should be.

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  33. Elisabeth EarnshawMarch 30, 2012 at 6:29 PM

    I had my own room on and off for about half my life but I really think that sharing a room is a great way to teach siblings to get along, and to help kids not be selfish. My sisters and I didn't share a room but we did share a bathroom all of my time in high school and we have so many memories from sharing that bathroom that we wouldn't have had if we had our own rooms.

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  34. I shared with my two sisters until I was 12 and it was a terrific experience especially on Christmas Eve when we would press our faces against the window and look out for Santa. Then my older sister managed to get her own room (great jealousy from me being number 2 sister), so I shared with my other sister until I was 18 - then I left home. I think sharing is fine until the teenage years then I think with differing schedules (I was up early doing swimming training, the sister I shared with went to bed late after dance rehearsals), studying habits etc, that it's best for teenagers to have their own space. But of course...it's just not always possible.

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  35. My mother chose to stay at home to raise me and my brother. To make up for the single income, my parents rented the first floor of our home leaving us with two bedrooms. This meant my brother and I had to share a room. I'm four years older and we shared a room for nine years after his birth. I am so thankful to have shared a room with my brother for those years.
    We are immeasurably close and I believe it has a lot to do with sharing living quarters. I read him books before he could read to himself, we built tents between our beds WAY past our bedtimes, we consoled one another (especially when our parents were the problem) and we both learned a large amount of respect for another person's space and possessions.
    It was not always easy and most of our issues arose over use of space when friends were around, who went where when we were fighting, and how I felt about sharing my room with a boy when I got older (a line is crossed when your brother turns his G.I. Joes airborne using your training bra). My parents always ensured that we each had our personal time and space and that we could air our grievances to keep things copacetic in the kids room.
    I moved into my own room when I was thirteen, but I am definitely a better sibling, roommate and person thanks to my years sharing space with my brother.

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  36. We have our three in one room here in Cambridge — one little 150 sq ft room, part of which was a big closet that we, um, "converted"? It's actually really sweet and cozy, and the kids seem to love it. I too wonder at what age it will become a problem (we also have 2 boys and a girl). But for now, it's working. I assume more and more of us are doing this and staying in cities because we're seeing images and reading experiences of people who are also doing it. So our ideas about what kids "need" changes as well, and yes, agreed that shared rooms are the norm all over the world, so.... I loved seeing yours in the same bed; it's occurred to me that that might be an option as the last crib gets too small. Thanks.

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  37. How sweet is this?! My two daughters share a bedroom. They're 8 mos and 24 mos, so very close to age. It was never an option for them to not share a room, since we live in a tiny little home with two bedrooms. But, to be honest, we plan to keep them in the same room, even if we're fortunate enough to move into a bigger home one day. I'd turn the extra bedroom into a playroom or a study for the girls. The little babbling sounds and laughs that we hear in the morning when they wake up and "talk" to each other from across the room are just priceless. Good luck with your article...I'll look forward to reading it!

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  38. First of all, that picture is absolutely priceless!

    As for sharing a room, a chunk of my childhood was spent sharing a room with my two brothers and my sister. We had so much fun! I mean, there were plenty of nights where we got far less sleep than our parents would've liked because we would stay up talking (and lots of times making up stories) until we all drifted off to sleep. Still, I think we were all closer because of it and I wouldn't trade that time for anything! Eventually, our situation changed and there was space for the boys to be in one room and my sister and I to be in another. The first night in our new sleeping arrangement was totally bittersweet: it was nice to have more space, but we all wished we could stick together.

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  39. I'm currently 16 years old and I've shared a room with my sister my whole entire life. I really think sharing a room has made me less selfish and more caring about others around me! Sure, we fight like any old sisters about the cramped space, but it always works out.

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  40. I shared a room with my sister when I was a little girl. My father insisted that we should share a room even though there were enough bedrooms in the house for us to have our own. He shared with his two brothers until he went away to university and thought it was great. I felt differently and at 8 I decided I had had enough of my sisters nonsense so moved out into the spare bedroom and refused to move back!

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  41. I'm here to shock you all...

    My brother and I shared a room until he was entering grade 9 & i was entering grade 6... the main reason he got his own room was because he wanted privacy when he was on the phone with all the girls that called the house for him. Most of our friends found this pretty crazy & lots of people don't believe us when we now (as 30 & 27 year olds) reminisce about sharing a room way longer than anyone thinks we ever should have. To be honest we never had any issues, in fact we enjoyed having our own/joint space that was separate from our parents. We would rearrange the furniture, re-decorate, we had fun with it. We didn't really spend too much time in our room as we were very busy with sports & when we were home we would spend it in the communal spaces of our house. We did sort of have a routine in the AM where when one of us was getting dressed the other one would spend that time doing whatever they needed to do in the bathroom & vice versa, but we were always a pretty open doored household. The funniest thing was when our dad would get mad at us for fighting or something & he would try to tell us to go to our room(s)! Inevitably it meant one of us had to go to 'our' room & the other got to stay in the living room with the TV... which was usually me :)

    Anyways, I think that people make too much fuss about sharing rooms here in North America... in lots of other parts of the world shared rooms are quite the norm, as well rooms are sometimes seen as just a place to sleep, no one really needs that big of a space all to them self while they are sleeping. But as someone mentioned below it really depends on the kids, some like to share, some like privacy, some don't spend much time in their rooms anyways so why waste the space, when it could be used for something else.

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  42. My brothers always shared a room, I usually ended up sleeping on their floor. I loved being with them. I feel like it's part of the reason we're so close now.

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  43. My sister and I couldn't be trusted in the same room alone for five minutes, let alone all night, but this post conjures up that image of the two sets of grandparents sharing a bed in Charley and the Chocolate Factory.

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  44. are you lds? (i only ask because i noticed you are in your twenties and have several young children. also, your husband's birth story mentioned you had lived in the north shore of hawai'i....)

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  45. NK_StyleingwithChildrenMarch 30, 2012 at 6:29 PM

    Shared a room with my brother into my teens (he's 5 years younger). I can't say I ever minded it. It felt nice to have him around. We were going through a rough time as a family and having someone else in the room at bedtime was comforting. For both of us.
    To this day we have a very supportive relationship. We're always there for each other. I don't know if we would have the same relationship if we never shared rooms. I hope things would still be the same.

    One thing I would like to say, I would have my kids share a room in a heartbeat. Wouldn't even think twice about it.

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  46. I'm so glad I came across this post!

    My husband and I are planning to move to NYC with our three young children, and we will most likely have them all share a room. I was a little worried at first and felt guilty--and perhaps a bit worried no one would rent to us because of this reason--but reading your post and the comments has helped a ton. Now we don't feel so alone and guilty about it.

    Cute photo by the way!

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  47. My husband and I are expecting child # 4 and live in a 2 bedroom 550 sq ft apartment. While this baby is a big surprise our 3 are comfortably sharing a bedroom. We gave them the bigger bedroom and the boys(10 and 7) share a bunk bed and our daughter (4) has a toddler bed. The new baby will be in our bedroom for the firsr 6 months and then we will put a mini crib in the kids' room. Eventually we might get another set of bunk beds. My kids are very close to each other and rather considerate of each other's feelings and excellent with sharing and I certainly credit them sharing a room to this behaviour.
    Eventually we will move but I'm not sure when. Till then this is working for us. After all, Bedrooms are for sleeping and half the world uses less space than Americans.

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